Should my partner set the costs when traveling?

The law enforcement: Pershone

My girlfriend Cara and I were together for seven years, but we only traveled a few times because we are both home bodies. But at the beginning of this year we went on vacation to Greece to visit my family, and it quickly became clear that we were not compatible with travel.

Cara tries to cut corners, but it can cost us money. First, she didn’t want to pay for Hold luggage. We went away for 12 days and it insisted to press everything into her backpack. She pressed all of her clothes into these stupid packaging cubes and I thought: This is amazing. Some of them didn’t fit, so she let me put it in my suitcase. And when we arrived to the airport, she was asked to pay extra because her backpack did not fit into the owner at the check-in desk. It was really embarrassing.

We’ll go back to Barcelona next month, and Cara mentioned that she would like us to pack a budget again. I would rather bring a larger suitcase and just pay for it. Last time she was charged, we lost money that would have to go to a meal.

If I had my way, I would only share a big case, but Cara is a bit like a control freak and she likes it when her things are separated. She is a decent packer while I’m a little more relaxed and just throw everything in that she says, she emphasizes.

Cara also prefers to prefer the cheapest places so that we can save money for eating and activities. In Greece we were with my family for a week, but we didn’t agree which hotel should book for the rest of the trip. Cara wanted to spend the night in a tiny attic and go into five star restaurants in the evening, but I wanted to divided into a beautiful hotel after the family.

She said comfortable accommodation was unnecessarily lightning. In the end, I paid most of the hotel chice – I just wanted to relax. But if we go to Barcelona, Cara should probably plan so that we have no loggerheads about packs and priorities.

We do not live together because we like our own space, so our finances are separated. But when we travel, we both have to compromise.

The defense: Cara

Personshone earns a little more than me, so of course we have different travel styles. I love traveling with her, but she is pretty light -hearted while I’m a budget baby.

When we went to Greece, she wanted to spray a really unusual hotel after staying with her family. Of course I wasn’t against it, but I just couldn’t afford it. Fortunately, she paid, but I have the feeling that it is now being held against me while we are planning our Barcelona trip.

I am a food stylist and it’s my passion. I want to eat in beautiful places because you get to know a culture. I’ve never been to Spain, so I have a list of places that I want to try. To prioritize good food, I have to scan on the accommodation. That makes sense for me because I am only there to sleep. I want to examine and eat the rest of the time. Pershone is not a gourmet and disagrees.

I also like to keep my packing light to save ridicule luggage fees. Since I received a fine because of too heavy backpacks, I am now being convicted as an irresponsible traveler. But that was the first time that it happened. I paid the additional luggage fee myself and have bought vacation scales since then.

I don’t want to share the Persona case because it doesn’t pack properly and I find it stressful. I can put all my things in a backpack, but it is very well organized. Persephones packaging style is hectic and she has no separate laundry bag for her impure dresses, she just throws them together. I don’t want dirty laundry to touch my things, thank you very much.

I don’t love Budget Travel, but it is a means to an end, and if you are with someone who has more money, you have to compromise.

Ultimately, we prioritize different things when we are abroad. If she doesn’t want to pay for everything, Pershone has to meet me with our accommodation opportunities for Barcelona in the middle. It is very generous, but I would prefer to share the costs for somewhere where we both like.

The guard reader’s jury

Should Cara inject more money?

If Cara only wants to go hand luggage, that’s okay, but she has to put in her remedies and do not integrate her extras into Persephone’s luggage. It is even more important that the couple has to find a better balance when traveling – something that works for both its comfort and budget.
Shayane, 30

Not guilty, but only fairly. How and what Cara Packs is her own business – there is no reason for you to do it in the same way or to share a case. When eating and accommodation, they were able to make compromises and pay for what is most important for them: Pershone pays off for the room, Cara pays for meals.
Peter, 60

No party is wrong here (except the lack of laundry bag!). Certainly the way to compromise is that Pershone for luggage fees and accommodation and Cara pays the payment of the food.
Alex, 37

Cara should be pampered. Pershone clearly recognizes that she is better and pays where it is helpful, and Cara is ready too Foot fuck the bill if it also makes a mistake. Personshone even seems to be open to luggage when they share a huge suitcase.
Mor 21

Personshone should be a little more generous and pay for everything. If you are in a couple, it is good to relax via money and to be wrong on the side of the generosity. Everything comes out in the laundry anyway.
Anna, 45

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