by The warmer weather and longer days make summer the most popular season for weddings in Great Britain.
According to Statista, August was the most popular month to bind the knot in England and Wales in 2022, and more than 33,000 weddings took place. June, July and September were also top picks. At the other end of the scale, January recorded only 6,367 weddings, which went the least month for the gang.
While many couples are currently part of their wedding, others can quietly question whether they are really ready to say “I do”.
It is normal and many couples are nervous before a wedding experience cold feet. However, there is a difference between the predictions and more serious concerns that can signal deeper problems in the relationship.
In order to distinguish between the two, Yahoo UK spoke to two relationship experts about the warning signs, who could point out that it is time to rethink or even cancel their wedding before going along the passage.
Signs that you should call up your wedding
Pressure from others
A wedding is a serious obligation, so British Association for Consulting and Psychotherapy, Georgina Stormer, suggests that people are taking into account their motivation.
“Do we imagine with this person? Are we happy? Or do I try to please other people?” She asks.
“The pressure of the family, friends or even from our fiance could mean that we made it guilty of the big day near the day when we call up things. But if our only motivation is to make everyone else happy, it is a sign that things are not right.”
Rachel Mavlynn, a chartered member of the British Psychological Society, agrees and adds: “A wedding is a deeply personal and often agonizing decision, but in some cases it is the healthiest and most confident path forward.
“The feeling of being immersed in the wedding through family, social expectations or sunken costs as a real, mutual willingness is a sign [to call it off]. “
Abuse or manipulative behavior
According to Maclynn, people should pay attention to whether their partner has emotional non -availability or instability in the relationship, including frequent volatility, manipulation or lack of emotional security.
Storm seconds and said: “Relationships and marriages flow over time, but we always hope to be in a partnership with mutual respect and affection. Unfortunately, this is not always the case.
“If you have an abusive or manipulative behavior, be it physically or emotional, this is something you can pay attention to.”
Different goals of life
It is important to discuss lifestyle and goals such as career, life agreements and children before you decide.
“Sometimes differences can be negotiated or impaired, but some differences are incompatible. And it can be easier to go away before the wedding than to sign resentments for a lifetime,” says Stormer.
Maclynn adds that “core candidates who have not been solved or even openly discussed” are a sign that a wedding should be deported.
A growing feeling of fear
If you have fear, feeling of numbness, persistent doubts or separation and not excited if you think together about your future, says Macynn that this could be another sign.
She adds: “The presence of conflicts is not the problem, it is whether both people can navigate with honesty, accountability and mutual respect. If a relationship lacks these properties, a wedding will not fix it.”
What to do if you want to call up your wedding
Mavlynn says that it is “incredibly brave” to end an act of integrity and often explains: “It may feel like you are abandoning people, waste money or have a judgment, but continues a wedding if your heart knows that otherwise you can have far more permanent consequences.”
Here is your advice:
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Listen to your inner voice, not the loud opinions of others. Your intuition may be uncomfortable, but it is rarely wrong.
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Find support from someone you trust, a therapist, a trainer, trainer, matchmaker or confidante who can help you disguise fear of clarity
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Recognize that grief and relief can coexist and be able to mourn the end of a future that you have imagined, does not mean that the decision is wrong
Stormer adds: “In view of what is really concerned. Maybe she gets down to let people down, about embarrassing to be single again. Ask yourself whether these worries are really worth, with someone who does not feel right for you, possibly a lifelong obligation.”
Signs, they are just cold feet
“Cold feet are a completely normal and joint reaction to the enormous obligation of the obligation that the marriage represents.
Signs for this can be cold feet, belong:
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Stress about planning the wedding
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Temporary emotional distance or irritability, which is often associated with an overload of the wedding planning
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Questions like “What if I never have to be with someone else?” are normal as long as they do not come with the wish to react to them
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Physical symptoms of anxiety, such as a racing stovement, insomnia or stomach problems that come loose when you connect with your partner again
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Nervousness paired with love and affection
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Fear of the institution of marriage itself and not about the person they marry
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